Have you ever wondered why some people are highly motivated and successful in everything they set out to accomplish, while others, who may come from similar backgrounds, fail? What gives some the edge and pushes them to the top, while others have a difficult time getting motivated to move forward? The most important difference between being motivated or demotivated is attitude. A positive attitude and positive self-image create the difference between success and failure in every facet of your existence. Attitude, motivation, and communication skills are the cornerstones for growth. They provide the foundation for success in meeting any challenge.
Motivation is a life-long process – a process by which you become renewed each and every day. The eminent Scandinavian philosopher, Soren Kierkegaard, believed that an individual is constantly in the process of becoming and translates all his thinking into terms of process. To motivate yourself and others, you must first learn to recognize the process by which you create negative communication and demotivating behaviors. Acknowledging your negative communications is often the first step toward changing them. Learning the skills to change patterns of behavior that inhibit you enables you to continue in your process of growth.
When you believe you are discouraged, you are simultaneously reinforcing your discouraging beliefs and behavior. If you believe you can’t do something, your beliefs and behavior will make sure you’re unsuccessful. However, when you take the first step to change the phrase “I can’t” to “I won’t”, you become more responsible for your actions and beliefs. By taking this responsibility you become more self-accepting. You can now communicate with more confidence. Communicating with confidence positively changes the way you feel and act toward others. You can motivate and boost the confidence of others when you feel personally confident and motivated. Give yourself permission to make the courageous changes that will motivate you to take positive action. Focus your energies in the direction where you create encouraging beliefs and behavior, and you will be successful.
The second step is changing the “I won’t” to “I can”. Taking this action helps you develop even more responsibility for your decisions. You are now in charge of making your own decisions, and can now decide what it is you want to accomplish. The “I can” is an important step in the motivation process. You look less for approval or disapproval from others, knowing that your choice comes from within you. Charles Garfield wrote, “As a peak performer, you will know that your triumphs come about not because luck favored you but because of the active responsibility you have taken.” When you take the action necessary to change “I won’t” to “I can”, you become more focused and self-determined.
The “I Can” is a movement forward in communication. It helps you realize that you can make your own decisions and create your own behavior. The “I Can” creates success because it motivates you to make positive changes in your beliefs, communication and behavior. Changing the “I Can” to “I Will” creates a dynamic change in your life, the transition from what is potential to what is actual. “I Can” is the spark that ignites your fire. “I Will” is your inner fire and torch that motivate you to take action. Taking action can be difficult, but is also challenging, exciting and rewarding. “I Will” is your inner determination, driving force and motivation to choose and focus on maximizing your abilities. Invoking “I Can I Will” is to call on your inner strength for encouragement, inspiration, and support. “I Can I Will” focuses and drives you to move forward with greater momentum.
Motivate yourself and others by effectively choosing to practice the skills for growth which contribute to success. Maximizing your abilities, or “going for the gold”, in sports, education, business, medicine, or any other field of endeavor, means having the courage to “take a chance” and try something new. Choose to take action and live dynamically. Practice the mechanics and skills for growth. Take the initial first step to change your behavior and fine-tune your communications.